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VIBRATORS
The vibrator was invented around the 1800 hundreds by doctors to treat hysterical women, their fingers were getting tired. Thats the Doctor's fingers not the womens.
Women were not considered sexual, and an orgasm was considered a medical treatment for a number of women’s aliments. So the first vibrators were created for medical professionals. Some Victorian Doctor's had a number of different medical devices that were used to stimulate the women to release their “hysteria”.
Fortunately the modern vibrator has moved beyond a hand crank and steam power onto battery power.
Vibrators are powerful items which offer a great range of sensations for the user. Vibrators can be used to stimulate the body all over, not just the genitals. The speed, power and sensations vary from vibrator to vibrator. These sensations can also be effected by the material that the vibrator is made out of.
A number of women and men find that an orgasm caused by a vibrator can be more intense than one caused by digital stimulation. Women often find it easier to have multiple orgasms while using a vibrator.
Vibrators are great to provide consistent stimulation. You may wish to play with vibrators or a vibrating bullet by yourself first. Spend time exploring what feels best for you. Once you have found what stimulation you like, then you can bring the toys to play with your partner. Teach them how you like to be touched with the vibrator.
Now we girls take a bit longer to reach climax, the average around 15 to 20 minutes. Also the clit is not in the best position for direct stimulation when your partner has penetrated you. This is where a vibrator can have a great effect.
A large number of women will not climax without consistent direct stimulation of the clitoris.
Vibrators come in many sizes and styles. Classically shaped vibrators are usually fairly straight and often are modeled to look like an erect penis. G-Spot vibrators are shaped to allow direct stimulation of the G-Spot. Some vibrators have a clit tickler or stimulator attached to the front of the unit. These tend to be called “rabbit type” or “pearl divers”.
A number of the clit stimulators are shaped to appear like animals. These larger vibrators’s often have two sets of controls. One to control the speed of the main shaft of the vibrator, while a second controller will be used to vary the stimulation offered by the clit tickler.
Remote controlled vibrators can also be great fun, with the controller being in your partner’s hands!
There are also smaller vibrators that fit or strap onto the fingers. These are great to tease yourself or your partner. Even though these are small; they are still great for direct clitoral stimulation.
Vibrating cock rings are also a form of vibrator that will also provide this stimulation to the clitoris during penile penetration.
When choosing a vibrator, browse the site and look for one that appeals to you. If you do not like the look of the vibrator chances are you will not really enjoy it.
Apart from visual appeal, have a look at the number of functions the vibrator offers you. Consider whether or not you want a clit stimulator or just a more classic vibrator. Other considerations would be where you intend to use the toy... so do you need a waterproof vibrator?
You have to think whether or not you want a vibrator for external stimulation, internal stimulation or both. It also depends on whether or not you like hard vibrators or the softer, more flexible jelly type. The harder materials will transmit the vibrations better than the jelly type materials. Some vibrators have the vibration unit at the base of the vibrator while others have the vibration unit mounted in the body of the shaft. So this will make a difference to where the most vibrations are felt. To this end, the first third of the vagina (or entrance to the vagina) has the most nerve endings.
So vibrators are a toy to be enjoyed by you or with a loved one... They are designed to give that consistent direct stimulation that often our fingers tire of providing. So have fun looking at the different types. You will probably end up with a few to play with. You’re not “greedy” to have more than one. We all want a bit of variation, isn’t that the spice of life?
Hints to Help Make the Most of Your Vibrator.
. Ensure your vibrator has good batteries.
. Remove the batteries while not using the vibrator to ensure battery acid doesn’t leak into the toy.
. Use a condom to prevent STD’s if you intend to share the vibrator.
. Clean the vibrator after use, wash with soapy water and dry well. We do not suggest putting them thru the dish washer! The heat in the dish washer will affect the controls of the vibrator and the Mother-In-Law may well visit and unload the dishes for you!
. Use lubricant with your vibrator, be sure to use water based lubricants, since if you use an oil based lubricant on silicone vibrators it will affect the toy.
. Explore your whole body with the vibrator, not just the genital area. Nipples and necks are great areas to play with.
Vibrators are manufactured in a number of materials.
RUBBER: A more affordable option than some other materials. It is porous material so extra care is needed for cleaning. I would suggest using a condom on rubber toys since it is difficult to disinfect the rubber toy.
SILICONE: A more expensive option, however easier to clean and a longer life then the cheaper rubber toy. Silicone has the ability to absorb heat so it quickly heats to your body temperature. To disinfect the silicone toy is simple. You can boil it and then wash with a good anti-bacterial soap. Allow to dry well.
PLASTIC: Easy to clean, robust and long lasting. This harder material will transmit the vibrations better than the jelly/rubber types.
NIPPLE TOYS.
We have a number of nipple toys. From vibrating nipple pumps to nipple clamps. Nipple clamps are covered in their own section.
Nipple Pumps are a toy designed to enlarge and engorge the nipple. Once the suction cup has engorged the nipple you have a choice of whether or not to apply a ring. This ring will act as a band to restrict the blood flow back out of the nipple. While engorged the nipples will be erect and more sensitive to touch.
So maybe you want the fun of nipples showing thru your shirt while out or is it the fun to be had teasing the erect nipples. Once engorged trying sucking on the nipple or brushing with a paint brush. Rubbing an ice cube around the nipple will increase the nipples sensation again. There are unlimited ways to tease the engorged nipples.
The Vibrating Nipple Pump is a unit with small suction cups to apply over the nipples. As well as applying a suction to engorge the nipples vibrations add extra sensation to the game. And as with so many other toys, this nipple pump can be used on other areas to great effect.
NIPPLE CLAMPS
Nipple clamps can increase your sensitivity while using them. People find a number of ways to use nipple clamps. You can certainly have a lot of fun. Your partner can use one hand to manipulate the clamps via the attached chain, leaving their other hand to pleasure you. Or maybe you use the clamps on yourself while you masturbate.
Nipple clamps are often used in BDSM. You can certainly control a person while tugging on the chain.
Vibrating nipple clamps are a wonderful toy, the vibrating units add a bit of weight to the clamps while providing great sensations.
Of course the clamps are not limited to only the nipples, how about the labia or the testicles. You could always tuck a vibrating clamp away in your panties for that extra sensation.
Since the nipples are more sensitive with the clamps applied, why not enjoy the fun and play with them. Lick, blow, tickle, brush or maybe even twist them.
Hints for Making the Most of Your Nipple Clamps.
. Gently massage the nipples prior to applying the clamps.
. Apply the clamps slowly, so gently apply the clamps to allow the nipples to adjust to the pressure.
. If there is any severe pain remove the clamps immediately. Adjust the screw on the clamps prior to reapplying.
. Remove the clamps to allow blood to flow every 15 minutes or so. It will sting as the blood flow returns but this is temporary, and of course opens more opportunity to torment the nipples.
DILDOS
A Dildo is a phallic or penis shaped toy. It can be used by one person on themselves or on a partner. Dildos can enhance your sexual life in a number of ways.
Dildos can be used by your partner if his erection has softened but you still want penetration. So your male partner can continue to pleasure you even if his erection has gone, using a dildo may well give him time to regain his erection without pressure.
Woman may wish to use dildos in a harness to penetrate their partners. They could either use the dildo vaginally or anally. It is interesting to watch women at the toy parties grab a harness with a dildo. They are soon stroking the dildo just like men stroke their penis. There seems to be a fascination with the erect phallic form.
We have dildos in packs where you can purchase the harness with a dildo. If you have never used a strap on these are a great option. If you have already decided that strap on sex is for you, consider one of our leather harnesses. These are made in New Zealand and are great quality. Since they are full leather their life span is years.
Even though dildos are basically penis shaped there are a number of variations. Some are curved to allow stimulation of the G Spot or the A spot. Others have suction bases so they can be attached to objects like chairs, this allows for self penetration or games. There are double ended dildos so you can both enjoy the dildo at the same time. Others have flared bases; these are designed for use in a strap on harness or for anal sex.
Maybe you wish to demonstrate the use of condoms or explain intercourse; a dildo would be an easy way to do this.
Dildos are manufactured in a number of materials.
PYREX: man made glass. A great material for safe sex, its phthalate free and non-porous. Easy to clean. These often come in a great selection of shapes and sizes. You also have the option of gently heating or cooling the dildo for greater sensation.
RUBBER: A more affordable option than some other materials. It is porous material so extra care is needed for cleaning. I would suggest using a condom on rubber toys since it is difficult to disinfect the rubber toy.
SILICONE: A more expensive option, however easier to clean and a longer life then the cheaper rubber toy. Silicone has the ability to absorb heat so it quickly heats to your body temperature. To disinfect the silicone toy is simple. You can boil it and then wash with a good anti-bacterial soap. Allow to dry well.
ANAL SEX
The anal area is an erogenous zone for both men and women which mean’s that anal sex is very stimulating and pleasurable for a large number of people. We have a number of toys and books available for anal play and pleasure.
Introducing anal play into your sex life is like introducing any other new ideas. Communication is the key to successful anal sex. Talking with your partner about anal sex is a must, without communication you could have a few problems. Both partners have to be working together and be listening to each other.
A great way to introduce anal play is to start with just a light massage around the anal and genital areas. These areas have a large number of nerve endings which will respond to the massage. It will also act as a way to start relaxing the muscles in the rectal area. You can do the massage with your hands or introduce a vibrator to add extra sensations.
The male G-Spot or prostate is located in the rectum, so the insertion of an anal toy can stimulate the prostate causing a more intense orgasm.
Women also enjoy anal penetration, in some positions it can have an effect on the female G-Spot. Double penetration is also possible with either a strap-on harness and dong, or maybe a butt plug.
You shouldn’t experience any pain during anal sex. If you experience pain you need to stop immediately.
Since the anal area is not self lubricating like the vaginal area you need to use good quality lubricant with any anal play.
The use of condoms is highly recommended to ensure safe sex, the organisms that are present in the bowel and rectum will cause infections if they are introduced into other body cavities. So cover all items whether they are a toy or a finger or penis with a condom. Toys used anally should be reserved for anal use only. If you are going to use a toy vaginally that has been used anally ensure it has been cleaned well and covered with a clean new condom.
One of the most important features of the anal toy is the flared base, to ensure the toy doesn’t travel upwards into the bowel. Otherwise ensure the toy is long enough so that you basically have a "handle" outside the body.
When your toys arrive, check there are no sharp edges, if the toy is a harder plastic sort any edges can be smoothed over using an emery board. Run your finger wet with lubricant over the toys, this will allow you to feel any sharp edges.
We have a number of toys available which are designed and safe for anal play. Your imagination is the only limiting factor. We also have books in the book section regarding Anal Sex and Anal Health to ensure you are safe in your play and gain the most enjoyment from your toys.
Hints to Help Make the Anal Play More Fun.
: Ensure the item you are using anally has a flared base.
: Avoid rigid toy’s, the anal canal is curved so you need flexible toys correctly designed for anal play.
: Lots of good quality lubricant.
: When starting out with anal play, smaller is better. We have sets of butt plugs available designed for slowly experiencing anal play.
: Consider reading one of our books in the book section about anal play and health.
: Anal toys should only be used in the anal area. Do not mix toys for vaginal penetration with those used for anal play.
: Cover your toys with a condom for extra safety.
BUTT PLUGS
Butt plugs are toys designed for anal play, although a number can be used in other play as well. One of the most important features of the butt plug is the flared base, to ensure the plug doesn’t travel upwards into the bowel. Otherwise ensure the toy is long enough so that you basically have a "handle" outside the body.
Butt plugs come in a number of sizes, it is best to start smaller and work your way up to the larger sizes. A number of butt plugs have extra features such as the ability to expand with a pump system and or vibrations as well.
People often use a butt plug to loosen and open the anal sphincter before penetration. Other people find having a butt plug inserted a very erotic experience and use the butt plug as part of fore play.
The anal area is an erogenous zone for both men and women. At times women enjoy having a butt plug in the anus while being penetrated vaginally, thus having a fuller feeling. The vibrating butt plugs are great for this double penetration since the vibrations are felt by both partners. Both men and women often find masturbation is greatly enhanced with the use of a butt plug.
The male G-Spot or prostate is located in the rectum, so the insertion of a butt plug can stimulate the prostate causing a more intense orgasm.
Hints to Help Make the Anal Play More Fun.
: Ensure the item you are using anally has a flared base.
: Avoid rigid toy’s, the anal canal is curved so you need flexible toys correctly designed for anal play.
: Lots of good quality lubricant.
: When starting out with anal play, smaller is better. We have sets of butt plugs available designed for slowly experiencing anal play.
: Consider reading one of our books in the book section about anal play and health.
: Anal toys should only be used in the anal area. Do not mix toys for vaginal penetration with those used for anal play.
: Cover your toys with a condom for extra safety.
DOUCHES OR ENEMA PLAY
Erotic enemas are enjoyed by a large number of people. Individuals who enjoy anal sex or anal stimulation often enjoy douching prior to having anal intercourse. Enema’s or douches may also be used as part of a BDSM relationship or scene. Other people use the douche system as a method of cleansing the body of toxins, so may use the douche in conjunction with a juice diet.
If you are going to do a douche to prepare for anal play, it is best to start by eating a lighter diet the day before. The number of times you use the douche will depend on individual requirements. It is normal to continue flushing till the return water runs clean. When you are emptying the bowels over the toilet, be patient as the water may have traveled higher up into the bowel, so even after the first gush of water, wait a few minutes to allow the bowel time to move higher water back down into the rectum.
Hints to Help Make the Most of Douches or Enema’s.
: Ensure a comfortable area to be in, as well as direct assess to a toilet to evacuate your bowels.
: Extra towels for clean up.
: Ensure the water is as close to body temperature as possible since cold or hot water will cause cramping.
: Ensure you are aware of the release and clamping locks in the tubing.
: Use lubricant on the nozzle and be gentle with the insertion.
: Try different positions till you decide the best for you; it could be lying on your left side or maybe even doggie position.
: Control the rate of flow of the water into the bowel.
: Ensure the bag is higher than the person receiving the enema, including when you have finished administrating it and the person is transferring to the toilet. If the bag is raised too high it will increase the pressure on the bowel while if the bag is lowered too far back flow from the bowel into the tube will happen.
: Only remove the nozzle when the person is directly over the toilet.
COCK RINGS
Cock Rings are used to restrict the blood flow back out of the engorged erectile tissues in the penis. This acts to lengthen the period that the penis maintains an erection. Cock Rings are available in many forms and designs.
We have decorative styles, stretchy and firm. Some with vibrating bullets attached to ensure further pleasurable stimulation to both partners. Some cock rings are designed to go around the base of the penis alone; others are designed to also harness the testicles as well. This latter design helps delay orgasm. The testicles are drawn back up towards the mans body prior to ejaculation so the cock rings which also hold the testicles down help delay the man’s orgasm.
Since cock rings are designed to restrict blood flow, please do not try to use other items like string or shoelaces to replace a well designed cock ring since you wish to avoid damage to the blood vessels.
Benefits That May Be Gained From Using a Cock Ring
: Stronger orgasms.
: Delayed orgasm.
: Erection is hard and lasts longer.
: More sensation.
: Add stimulation if using the types with vibrating bullets for both partners.
Hints to Help Make the Most of Cock Ring.
: Do not wear the cock ring longer than twenty minutes.
: Do not over tighten the cock ring.
: Ensure you are aware of the release mechanism for locking cock rings before use.
: Use a drop of lubricant on the firmer types before sliding up the penis.
: Slip the cock ring onto the penis before your erection forms. If the cock ring design also harnesses the testicles, gently slip each testicle thru the cock ring one at a time.
: Do not sleep in a cock ring since men have spontaneous erections in their sleep.
PENIS PUMPS
Penis pumps are popular for a variety of reasons. They were at first used for the treatment of erectile dysfunction by the Medical Profession. However as with a number of medical devices men have found other benefits to using the Penis Pump. Penis Pumps cause the engorgement of the erectile tissue via a vacuum caused with the suction of the pump drawing the blood into the erectile tissues. Your penis will return to its normal size after a period of time, the enlargement is temporary.
Benefits That May Be Gained From Using a Penis Pump
: The temporary enlargement of your penis.
: Increased sensation of the penis.
: It can create an erection without the man being sexually aroused.
: A firmer erection is usually gained, so enabling better penetration of your partner.
Hints To Help Make The Most Of Your Pump.
: Ensure a good seal between your skin and the pump. If you have excessive pubic hair you may consider shaving to help the sealing processes. Use lubricant.
: You may have greater results if you start using the pump when you already have an erection.
: To enable better results, massage your genitals to ensure the tissue is soft and pliable, this will start the process of bringing the blood flow into the genital area as well.
: Do not over pump with the Penis Pump, you shouldn’t feel any pain. If so release the pressure and start again.
: Only use the pump approximately three times a week to ensure no damage to the blood vessels in the penis.
: Use a cock ring to ensure the most from the enlarged penis.
This is a guideline only to the possible uses and benefits of penis pumps.
Hi Sue,
My boyfriend has introduced me to my G spot. I was aware that I had one but when he massages it, I go to another world. Unfortuneately he is not always around and I wonder if there is something I can buy that would satisfy me when he is not here. I find my own finger does not do it. My clitoris is always my friend but my boyfriend on my G spot is much better.Thanks
Hi M
We have a whole section of vibrators that are designed for the G.Spot. All G.Spot vibrators are shaped to be able to easily reach the spot without you having to twist your arm into a difficult to maintain position.
One called the Large Unisex Blue Vibrator is a great design. This vibrator retails at $60.00 and has a great shape and is easy to control with its custom design.
The next highest seller in the G.Spot vibrator would be the Wicked Pleasure Rod this is a great new design. It has the added bonus of a little clit tickler for the clit. This vibrator retails at $65.00.
Both of these vibrators are waterproof and I believe either would be every suitable.
Too locate the G.Spot vibrators on the website, just enter the vibrator area and you will see that we have divided the vibrators into different types.
kind regards SUE
Question from Commodore
Hi Sue, I have a problem whereby sometimes I cannot get/maintain an erection during foreplay. This leaves my partner disappointed when she feels she needs me inside her. Is there a strap on product for me that would help us? Is this an easy/quick piece to use. Don’t want to lose the moment fumbling about fitting the strap on. We do use a vibrator on her sometimes but she enjoys the close feel of me on her, when I am in her.
HI Commodore
It’s a myth that all men can hold a full erection for a long period of time. Basically men’s erections literally “come and go” but that doesn’t mean the arousal or desire isn’t still there. It’s just a matter of what the human body can do.
Unfortunately the media has convinced us that men must have a “huge rock hard penis” at all times. It is a bit like the weight loss issues faced by women.
So there are a couple of ways to work thru this, maybe wait to attempt to have an erection till after you have already aroused your partner. Your own arousal levels will rise when you are stimulating your partner.
Women need more time to reach a peak for orgasm. Often at least 15 to twenty minutes of direct clitoral stimulation.
Generally a man can not maintain an erection for any length of time unless he is receiving direct penile stimulation. So when you are drawing closer to when you partner will want full penetration, ensure you are getting the penis stimulation. Maybe massaging and stroking to help draw the blood into the penile tissues. So you need to ensure you are getting enough stimulation to get an erection.
The product I would suggest is called a Hollow Extender. As its name suggests it is hollow so you can slip your penis in comfortably without any problems. At the same time you will have a bit of room if your erection returns while using the Hollow Extender.
The Hollow Extender also has a built in vibrator to give stimulation to both partners. The harness system is a simple elastic one. Not at all complicated. This item is listed under Dildo’s.
Kind regards SUE
Question from Michelle
I have never used a vibrator before, just looking for a basic model that has good battery life? can you suggest the best one for me?
Thanks
HI Michelle
First you need to decide whether or not you want to use the vibrator for penetration or just for external stimulation.
If you are looking for a basic vibrator for penetration I would suggest you look at either the Perfect Pleasures Vibe (item code VJ0001) or a more basic vibrator again would be the Hot Flash (item code VV0006).
The Perfect Pleasure is a softer jelly type vibrator with some flexibility, as well as being a thicker vibrator. The Hot Flash is a hard version, and this is a more slender version.
If you are looking for a vibrating bullet so not so much for penetration. You could look at the Pure Vibes Clit Tickler (item code VV0033). This is a waterproof bullet. This unit is a nice basic bullet. Another suggestion in the vibrating bullets would be the Ultra 7 Silver Bullet (item code VV0024). This is a very powerful bullet which does use 4 batteries but they last for a long period. This unit has a number of different vibrations so a great unit.
You can use the item codes I have provided in the “go too” bar, this will take you straight to the products I have suggested.
So have a think about whether or not you want to use the vibrator for penetration as well as stimulation. A vibrator can of course be used for external stimulation as well as penetration. Where as a bullet is a bit more difficult to use internally.
We also have a wonderful book in our Sex Guides area called the Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys, (item code BK0096). This may be of interest to you as a great read while you explore sex toys.
Kind regards SUE
Question from Carebear
Hi, I was just wondering about the "Clit Banger Penis Sleeve[VD0006]". How long is it? and does it cover the head of the penis? Thanks
HI Carebear
The Clit Banger Penis Sleeve covers the entire length of the penis as well as the head of the penis, it is quite stretchable. It has a removal vibrating bullet that fits into part of the sleeve. Since the vibrating bullet is separate from the sleeve you can use this item separately. So two toys for the price of one.
Kind regards SUE
Question from Hopeful
Hi Sue
I am a recent convert to anal play with my wife. I enjoy the sensation of having the soft silicone butt plug in me. I am keen to try having one that can be in me while we are out or just for the sensation while not making love. I was wondering what type of plug you would recommend for longer term wear (I like the sensation of having vibration on or in the plug). Obviously lube is an issue, so I was thinking a jelly type plug. What do you think? Thanks
Hi Hopeful, these is a number of options available to you.
One I would suggest since you have said you like vibrations in the plug would be the Ride the Wave Vibrating Butt Plug, item number VA0021 listed under anal toys. It is made of 100% silicone & does not contain latex or phthalates. It also has seven vibration modes to use. This one combines the softness and the vibrations you are looking for, as well as no wires involved so great for wearing out. A slightly larger plug which also offers you a bit more adventure.
For a plug to wear without the vibration option I would give thought to the African Superman, item number VD0016. So a simple butt plug with a gentle curve, some people find a butt plug with a curve easier to hold in.
If you want to experiment further with sizing one of the best ways is using the set called Trojan Butt Plug Set, item number VA0019. This is a great 3 set to expand your ability to increase in the size you wear.
We also have a number of books in the book section regarding Anal Sex and Anal Health to ensure you are safe in your play and gain the most enjoyment from your toys.
I hope I have given you a couple of choices, I noticed a couple I have chosen are currently in the specials area, be quick I am due to rotate the specials soon.
Kind regards SUE
Question from Still Learning
Hello Sue, could you please explain the difference in uses and pleasures between bullets and vibators, also the diffrence in cock rings and their uses, do they really help stay hard longer,
thankyou
Hi Still Learning
The main difference between bullets and vibrators is that vibrators are designed for penetration whereas bullets are designed for external stimulation. To be able to insert a bullet you generally need to place the bullet into a condom to protect the connection wires between the bullet and its control unit.
Both vibrators and bullets can be used for all sorts of external stimulation. During penetration with a vibrator you can control the depth of penetration as well as use the vibrator shape and length to be able to manipulate the angle of penetration and stimulation. i.e.: g.spot massage. If you insert a bullet you can not really move it around.
Bullets tend to have stronger “pin point” stimulation possibilities.
Both bullets and vibrators can be used for extra stimulation of your clit while you are penetrated. Bullets tend to be smaller so easier to slip between you and your partner during penetration.
A cock ring works by restricting the blood flow back out of the penis. An erection is an engorgement of the penile tissues with blood, so if you restrict the flow back out of the penis then you lengthen the time of your erection.
There are a number of cock rings in various designs. Generally if you want to stay hard longer you would be looking at the firmer and adjustable Erection Ring. This allows you to tighten the ring once in position. If you are using the Erection Ring please ensure you spend a few minutes playing with the release mechanism so you can quickly release the rings constriction when you want to. This firmer ring tends to be used more by men with long standing erection problems.
We also have the Magnetic Cock Ring; there are some investigations into how magnetic fields can help with blood flow. Some people find these very helpful, so a softer jelly cock ring with some magnets inside the jelly ring. This tends to be used by men wanting to experiment with attempting to lengthen the period of their erections rather than a known penile dysfunction.
We always suggest when you are applying a firmer cock ring to apply a small amount of lubricant to allow the ring to slide more easily along the shaft of the penis.
Also as your body prepares to orgasm your testicles are drawn higher up into the body, so a cock ring like the Facing Eight will help slow this down since one part of this cock ring is actually designed to comfortably hold around the testicles so helping to hold them down longer.
Cock rings such as the Erection Ring are designed solely for the purpose of attempting to hold the erection longer whereas there is now a number of cock rings designed with built in stimulators or vibrating units. These allow the stimulation to be felt by you and your partner. Therefore rather than just holding the erection longer they can also provide pleasurable stimulation to both partners. So really these turn your penis into the latest bedroom toy. These cock rings come in all shapes and sizes. Some have bullets which can be used separately as well as with the cock ring. So almost two toys in one. Examples of these would be the Facing Eight Cock Ring and bullet or Hush Bunny Cock Ring. These two have removable bullets. So you can either use the bullet with or without the cock ring. Other styles like the Wittle Wabbit are a all in one unit, so you cannot separate the vibrations from the cock ring
Kind regards SUE.
Question from Sweetcheeks
hi sue, my husband had a radical prostatectomy a couple of years ago, since then has tried all sorts to get a full erection again, what can you suggest? would a hollow strap on do the job if he's not fully erect?
Hi Sweetcheeks
Yes, the hollow extender would be great. The extender is a firm form that your husband’s penis can slip into. He doesn’t need to be erect to use this. So I would consider it a great product in this situation.
Kind regards SUE
Question from SmartyPants
Sue
Congratulations on a great website - an excellent selection of products.
I see you are selling canes - the first NZ site I've ever seen offering them. We'd like to know how these canes compare to those used in schools in the good old days. What diameter are they? Are they whippy? How well do they bend?
When you ship them how are they packed? Are they recognisable as canes or encased in a tube?
Would love to procure one of these but we are very discreet and need to be reassured that the delivered goods will stay our secret.
Thanks
Hi SmartyPants,
All the canes are 7/16" natural rattan reed. So they are a mid range cane in flexibility and thickness. They wouldn’t be as whippy as the ones they use in movies where you see the actors bending the canes in half. The 7/16” tends to be what they term a “Masters Choice”. So a weighty cane.
Two sizes are available: a 28 inch cane which will allow you to have some distance between you and your lovely target. This will certainly get their attention and will be a great role play item for that “School Master or School Mistress” game.
The 2nd size is a great one for OTK (over the knee) play, so you can with ease and comfort, give a sound spanking or caning. This cane we have been able to have made just for you at 18 inches. This size will also be great to use to introduce your partner to caning in a fun and non-threatening way. We also requested this length to be made since we are aware that a number of people do not have a large bedroom to swing the cane in, it also lends itself to be hidden easily.
Since the canes are natural you will be able to seal them with stain, oil or vanish. We leave this choice to you. This way you can “personalize” the cane to your likes. Or do you wish to leave it natural and write on it the name of the person you caned and the date for fond memories.
With the canes being in a natural state you can soak them to increase the weight prior to using them for extra power.
Please ensure if you do not seal the cane that you use the cane only on one person, since they can in this natural state absorb body fluids. A lot of Masters and Mistresses have their play partners purchase their own private toys.
Freighting the canes will involve cardboard or tubes and bubble-wrap. These will be well covered and no one will know what you have purchased. If you purchase a cane with other products the cane will probably freight separately due to its length. We will ensure as we always do that your privacy is maintained.
kind regards SUE
He there Sue
Iam looking for a small vibrotor that fits on and can be tyed to a finger and so be very helpful in manny situations and leave both hands free to tuch anny other part of the skin .
I have seen them in london in a sex shop there but regret not buying one
The other thing i dont get is where do the letters BDSM stand for??
With the butplugs .What is there most commo0n use?I/E i would think the circular movement on top of the anus muscler , rather than the in out.Also the timing of its use in the total piture of making lov
HI Curly,
You have asked about three questions, so I will attempt to answer them in order.
A vibrator that straps to the fingers…well I would suggest you look at the Erotic Finger Massager, (product code VV0053) this straps to your finger of choice with the vibration unit strapped back on the wrist. It certainly allows a “hands free play” since you are not holding anything. The little unit sends vibrations thru your finger so you can play and enjoy your own fingers but with the added bonus of vibrations. A great toy which turns your own finger into the vibrator. As you say wonderful for touching any part of the body.
BDSM. can stand for a number of meanings. This lettering lends itself to a number of interpretations.
Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism.
Dominance & Submission
Bondage & Discipline
Sensual Magic
To mention a few.
This is a lifestyle that a large number of people are involved in worldwide. By being a lifestyle it can encompass a number of components. So it may be a style of sexual play, it may involve fetishes; it may involve power exchange to list a few. Or it may be your total way of life. People practice BDSM to whatever level they wish.
It can be as simple as blindfolding your lover for sex, in other words you are playing with sensory deprivation.
Maybe you have used handcuffs or restraints to keep your lover still during sexual intercourse and used a tickler to tease the senses. This would be considered Bondage and Dominance. Bondage since you are restraining and controlling the movements of your partner. Dominance since you are in control of what movements your partner can make and you control when they are released.
Have you ever dressed up in a lovely sexy outfit and pretended to be a damsel in distress being ravished by your kidnapper on his sailing ship? This would be role playing.
Ever being thrown over the knee (OTK) of your lover to be spanked and stroked. This could be Dominance and Submission or some may consider it Bondage & Discipline.
Do you love being told how to sit, what to eat, do you love to serve your partner and try to make their every wish come true. Maybe you are a sensual slave at heart.
Basically BDSM is an easy way to label a huge number of sexual elements. Originally people were labeled mainly with the word “Sadomasochism”. This is still considered a mental illness by the Medical Profession much like Homosexuality was considered until fairly recently a mental illness.
Those who practise BDSM consider themselves to be very sexual beings with a kink or two, they certainly DO NOT have a mental illness just like a gay person is not mentally ill.
Those in the lifestyle often refer to "normal sex" ie: missionary position as "Vanillas". So BDSM lifestylers may liken their many sexual kinks to the many flavours of ice cream. Why just have vanilla when you can have Rocky Road or Chocolate Ripple?
A number of people involved in BDSM may never enjoy giving or receiving pain, so the word “Sadomasochism” does not really cover what BSDM covers. Their BDSM may be sensory play, Dominance or submission. So BDSM has been accepted as a more fluid and relevant label.
If you wish to learn more I would suggest checking out the books we have in the kinky range. SM101 and The Loving Dominant are both well respected books that look at all aspects of BDSM.
Butt Plugs have a number of uses. People use them for different reasons.
Some people use the butt plug to train the anal muscles so anal sex or penetration is more comfortable and easy. This is why a number of Butt Plugs are sold in sets with graduated sizing. So if you were training your muscles for anal penetration then you would probably spend an hour or so every day wearing a plug. The Trojan Sets under Anal Toys are great for training.
Butt Plugs can give you a fuller feeling; often by wearing a butt plug during vaginal penetration you will add a feeling of having two lovers in you at the same time. The vibration butt plugs are great for this since you and your partner can both feel the vibrations.
Since you asked about BDSM, butt plugs can also be used for control play. Such as wearing a butt plug and having to request permission to remove it to go to the toilet.
Butt Plugs are flared at the base to ensure safety in play. A flared base ensures the plug can not move up into your bowels.
The in out you mention would refer to Anal Beads rather than Butt Plugs, that said some people may enjoy the butt plug being pulled out during orgasm.
We sell a huge amount of anal toys, so we can certainly say there are a lot of people having a great time with butt plugs and other anal toys.
We do have a few books on Anal Sex which may offer more explanations and uses of butt plugs.
kind regards SUE
Question from P
Which of the douche or anal syringe has the best results and which is easier to use?
Thanks
HI P
Both items can be used in a number of ways. The douche and rectal syringe can be used to flush the vagina as well as the rectum.
The douche has a litre bag attached so the volume of the flush is far greater than the smaller bulb system on the rectal syringe. The douche has a long hose and an attachment for hanging in the shower or similar. The volume of water and the flow (controlled by the height that you hang the bag at) will determine how high into the rectum the water will flow.
So if you are looking for a small flush for the anal area or vagina the rectal syringe would do the job. However if you want to flush the lower bowel prior to anal sex instead of using a chemical based enema then the douche would be the item to consider.
Both the rectal syringe and the douche are multi use when maintained well and cleaned as per the instructions. Due to the nature of their use I would suggest you consider safe sex advice and do not share these toys.
Both items are easy to use, the consideration is the amount of water you wish to use. If you use a litre of fluid into the bowel you will have a larger evacuation of fluid in return.
Some people do enjoy the cleansing of the douche while other are just as happy with the smaller rectal syringe.
Kind regards SUE.
Question from Porra
Hi Sue
please do you know pf a clitoral pump like a penis pump as i am looking for one for my wife please and as you have explained to so many people that when a women says she must pee its the build up before ejaculation my wife says it is pee and she she says there is no G-spot how do i convince her please help me
Hi Porra
I am not aware of a clitoral pump but you could use a Cupping Set, these are available at Chinese Health stores, they have about ten different size cups, the smallest is great for the clit, a slightly larger cup for the nipples and so on, you get the idea. These retail in the Auckland Chinese shops for approximately $75.00 which includes the cups and pump. This is a very versatile play item, since it can be used all over the body. Since it has a number of cups with each set yo can apply cups to a number of body parts at the same time.
How to convince your wife, have a read of the following books available on our website and encourage your wife to also have a read. Suggested reading would be “Screams, Squirms and Squirts” this book has a lot of great suggestions of how to introduce new ideas. The 2nd suggested reading would be “The Good Vibrations Guide to the G Spot”. This book as the title suggests covers the subject. If your wife is against the idea I would leave the book around where she may see it and have a read in her own time. At times forcing the issue may make people more resistant to the notion but allowing time for the information to be read and thought thru will often allow an opening for discussion and exploration.
Kind regards SUE
Question from Noo
Have you heard of a Russian vaginal strengthening mini 'machine' with a pump up balloon that strengthens and tightens the vagina to improve lovemaking? Please don't send advertising! Thanks. yours truly, mother of two with a lusty husband!
Hi
Sorry no we haven’t, and I would wonder why it has a balloon since this would create a stretch of the vaginal area. The use of Duo Balls or Benwa Balls combined with correct pelvic floor exercises will strengthen your muscles. The only way to tighten the vagina is to do either a surgical procedure or strengthen your PC muscles for better control. This will give the ability to “grip” your husband’s penis.
Duo Balls and Benwa Balls have weights which move as you walk around so you must grip the balls to keep them inside of you. They are like a gym work out for your vaginal muscles. I do suggest you try these at home since if you haven’t used them before and your pelvic floor muscles are weak you may well have trouble at first keeping them inside your vagina. Loosing them into your panties in a supermarket may not be the best idea.
Pelvic floor exercises are often taught incorrectly, you are instructed to draw up your muscles, hold for thirty seconds and then release. This doesn’t really teach you control over the muscles since you release in one quick movement. What you should try to achieve is more like a Pilates type of exercise. In other words imagine you are climbing up and down a set of stairs. You practice moving up the stairs in smaller muscle pull ups till you reach approximately 10 steps. Once you are able to control the muscles to say three steps you start attempting to release one step at a time instead of a total let down. When you master releasing slowly one step at a time you can then practice moving up and down in the same exercise routine. This system of exercises will greatly increase the control you have over your PC muscles and will mean you can tighten your vagina at will around your husband’s penis.
The Duo Balls and Benwa Balls mentioned above are listed under balls, there are different styles and the choice is basically a personal one. Some are in soft latex casings and others are in hard plastic cases. The hard plastic cases are the cheapest but they are quite noisy with movement. The more expensive latex encase Duo Balls are quieter and have no string between the balls.
OH by the way we do not send advertising when we receive a question. The only time you would receive information or emails from us would be if you sign up for our newsletter or you place an order.
Kind regards SUE
Question from fufu
Hi sue i got a problem with my penis. it kinda too small and my girlfriend always complains about it. can you pliz introduce me with some of your products this is the first time. hope for a favourale response cheers.
HI fufu
Well the truth of the matter is there are not any products that will enlarge your penis except for surgery. There are creams and penis pumps which will give a temporary enlargement.
The average mans penis is 6 inches, but with all the media pressure people believe what they see or read in the media. Let’s face it according to most romance novels you should be a “hard and throbbing 8 to 10 inch rod 24/7” and ready for sex at any time. Women are pressurised by the media regarding their body shapes, men are subject to similar pressure regarding the size of their penis.
There are Penis Pumps available (under Penis Pumps) these create a vacuum around the base of your penis and encourage blood to flow into your penis. This is a temporary enlargement caused by engorgement of the tissues in your penis.
Erection creams work along similar methods by having ingredients in them to cause a reaction to draw blood into the area of your genitals.
If you concerned I would suggest your try a penis pump, but keep in mind that its is a temporary enlargement. Using a firm erection ring would help hold the blood in the penis, however these must be removed after a short period of time.
We have a product called a Hollow Extender; this is listed under dildos & strap ons. This device is a hollow penis that you can slip your penis into, it has a built in vibrator to pleasure both you and your partner. This strap on increases the width and length of your penis. It is held in place by light straps.
Your partner may benefit from using benwa balls; we have various sets available and listed under balls & beads. Using these exercises the vagina and pelvic floor muscles making it easier for her to “grip” your penis during sex.
I would also suggest reading a couple of “how to do it” type books, since approximately 80% of women do not climax with only penile penetration, the majority of women require stimulation of their clit as well as penetration. So if your partner is thinking your penis is too small because she is not climaxing, maybe a bullet vibrator will assist.
Books I would suggest your read would be “Tricks to Please a Woman” by Jay Wiseman, this author is well known and highly regarded. He has numerous suggestions to enhance your sex.
“Tickle Your Fancy”, this book has methods that a woman can increase her pleasure, I suggest this one since your partner may have to take a more active role in the sex play.
We have a huge selection of books so I am sure you will find something to enhance your sex and foreplay..
Kind regards SUE
Question from smallone for her
how do i get my wife to squirt
FEMALE EJACULATION
Every woman and her response’s are different to the next woman. Some women only ejaculate with G-Spot stimulation, some with clitoral stimulation. Other women ejaculate when they are first sexually aroused, and then others do not ejaculate at all.
Hence answering your question is a difficult one.
There is no right way or wrong way to go about getting your wife to “squirt” it’s a matter of finding “her” way.
Many women are still embarrassed by their ejaculation; women have been conditioned too believe that only men can ejaculate. This conditioning that women can not ejaculate really comes into being around the Twentieth Century.
So we have been lead to believe its urine and that at the time of orgasm we have lost control of our bladder and leaked. Many women are embarrassed by what they would believe is “urine leaking” out of their bodies. Undoubtly quite a few of us have being to see our GP’s on this subject.
(Since the first time that any medical notes were written and I mean back to the times of Hippocrates it was noted that women “flowed sexual juices” as it was called. It was often believed that if women didn’t have “good flow” that she would not be able to fall pregnant or the child would be weak)
Not all women will ejaculate; it will be a matter of seeing what will possibly turn your wife on to attempting to try to ejaculate in the first instance.
First and foremost you will need to discuss with your wife the idea and both become comfortable with the phenomenon that is female ejaculation.
We have a excellent book on the subject listed under books called “The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-Spot”. This covers this area of female ejaculation.
Suggestions apart from reading up is attempting too remove any “barriers” to ejaculation.
Some women ejaculate large amounts of fluid, others less.
Therefore if your partner is worried about the bed getting
wet, this will hold back any attempt on her part to relax into experimenting.
So I would suggest looking at organising bedroom towels etc. Simple as it may sound, you are asking your partner to possibly go against everything she will have been told when she was growing up and sexually maturing, so removing possible “mind blocks” such as a wet mattress will go along way to help your adventure. Besides are you going to sleep on the wet spot afterwards?
I would strongly advise against showing your wife “Porn DVDs” with porn stars ejaculating since these are often not good representations.
There are with a goggle search some very interesting and informative websites with good information and educational DVD’s on the subject without resorting to the local video stores adult section.
Ejaculation usually occurs after stimulation of some sort around the urethral sponge. This is located approximately ¼ or 1/3 of the way into your partners vagina on the anterior vaginal wall. It feels when aroused a bit like a rough patch or wrinkled skin not unlike a walnut.
Since you are stimulating around the urethra your partner will often get the “I need to pee” feeling. That means you are in the right place. One suggestion is that your partner goes to the toilet for a pee before you start attempting to find the G-Spot. So when she gets the “pee” feeling you will be assured that partner doesn’t need to go and pass urine.
By stimulating this area you are allowing time for the fluid to build up in the sponge. A bit of time and effort spent on fore play will probably go a long way here.
Just like men, women use their PC muscles to help ejaculate. Many women state that they feel a build up of fluid or pressure. So they push down and out with their pelvic floor muscles. Other women respond to a vibrator being pressed onto the G-Spot. You as a partner maybe able to provide the stimulation with your penis or fingers. A large number of women find that a partners fingers doing a motion like a crooked finger signaling someone to come to them, works wonders.
So experimentation and communication will be the key to finding out whether or not your partner can ejaculate. By communication I mean you will need feedback as to what feels right and what doesn’t.
Kind regards SUE
Question from E
hi which toy would best go with the leather harness prefebaly slim line thanks
Hi E
the best dong for use with the leather harnesses is the purple spiral dong, listed under dongs.
Kind regards SUE
Question from E
hi what sizes do your strap on's come in the harness size thanks e
Hi E
Our Leather Strap On harnesses come in medium and large, medium would be up to about size 16. Large goes up to about size 24 to 26.
The sets that you can purchase which include harness and dongs are a lot less flexible. These harness are not as strong as the leather and are only really suitable for up to a 14 to 16 max.
For long term use you can not beat the Leather Harnesses, they look great, work alot better and have more adjustment points. Once you have them adjusted to you size they are quick and easy to put on.
kind regards SUE
Question from PEE
Hi Sue can you please tell me if you deliver to PO Box's?
Hi Pee
YES we do deliver to POBoxes and Rural Delivery is also not a problem.
Kind regards SUE
Question from K
do u have a store cuz i cant find the location or ist online shop only
Hi K
We are a online store plus we do toy parties within the Auckland region.
All items on the website are in stock.
We do not "drop ship" which is place a order with another company after receiving your order and payment.
We ship five days a week and the set charge for shipping is $7.50 to anywhere in New Zealand no matter how much you purchase. We do not ship on weekends and please allow for public holidays.
The courier will usually have the order delivered within 24 to 36 hours of payment being received. The fastest method of payment is credit card of course. If payment is made by credit card before 11.30am on weekdays we are still able to ship that afternoon. Internet banking shows overnight so we ship the following working day.
We are always happy to answer questions on line or you can ring and talk with me if you want to have further explanations of what may be suitable for you.
Kind regards SUE
Question from R
Hi the inflatable butt pump ??? I been trying to get anal area to relax to take the other half’s member but even using a plug I seem to be tight and hard to get inserted but once in he is good for half an hour or more would the inflatable stretch , relax , muscles to make insertion easier
Hi R,
there is a couple of things you can do. First you could practice with different size butt plugs. They come in small, medium and large. So a period of practising with the different sizes may help. By practising I mean using the plugs while doing something totally different such as housework. Housework is less boring and as you bend and move you are stimulating the anal area. This allows you to learn to relax your anal muscles. The practising is something that takes a couple of weeks till you gain the control you want.
A lot of people who enjoy anal sex enjoy the wearing of a butt plug doing everyday things. Sitting on your ride on mower has a whole new meaning with a butt plug in.
We have a product called Innuendo (OZ0006, use this number in the product search bar). This is a natural herbal gel which is great for relaxing the anal area for intercourse. It was designed for this specific purpose. Again once you have relaxed a few times it is easier the next time.
The product you mentioned is called an Expandable Butt Plug (VA0011). Wonderful toy which you can inflate internally, so smaller to start and then inflate to the desired size. It has the advantage of a built in vibrator, so you can stimulate yourself with the vibes. Theres nothing like being turned on to relax the muscles for intercourse. This would be a great training toy to help relax your anal muscle’s, it would certainly be more fun than the plain butt plugs.
We also have two books available written for people wanting to explore and enjoy anal sex. The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, (BK0041) and Anal Pleasure and Health, (BK0040). Either one of these books would be great reading material. Plus last but not least lubricant, use lots of lube. Actually work your anal sphincter with lubricant prior to full penetration. You or your partner can start to relax the anal sphincter by massaging your anus with lots of lubricant. Use your fingers or a toy like the Anal Rod (VA0014) to start to introduce the lube past your sphincters, this in turn will get you turned on and relaxed.
Kind regards SUE
Question from D
How do you package your goods, is there a descreet option as I don't want anyone knowing where I have been shopping???
Hi D
All packages are sealed in Track Packs, Items inside are wrapped in bubble wrap so no one can "feel" what you have brought.
We do not use any Company Markings to identify our business, the addresses are only the Delivery Address & a return address of T C Limited, P O Box 74, Waiuku. So please shop in condifence that we do protect your privacy at all times.
Once we have shipped we will email the Track & Trace number so you can trace your parcel if you wish too.
Kind regards SUE
Question from semoresquirt
Hi Sue how do you doo? sorry just had to throw that in. any way I seen something that really kinda turned me on. It was a women that was gavin a o.gasm that really kind of went air born projectille I hear that any women can do this. I dont know how true it is? In other words she literally ejaculated. So is it true that women may possibley learn to do this and how. I myself have never seen this in person. any info would interesting thanks ?
HI Semoresquirt
Yes some women can learn to ejaculate. Usually caused through G-Spot stimulation. Around a women’s urethra there are glands called the Urethral Sponge. During stimulation the Para urethral glands fill up with a clear fluid. This is not urine & has no smell. Some women during orgasm either seep or spurt out the fluid. The fluid ejaculates via the urethra just like a man. Just like our male counterparts the amount of fluid & the strength of the flow differ from person to person. Some women have a very strong stream that you can see spurt over quite a distance; other women may just seep onto the sheets. There have been many medical people who say that women can not ejaculate, however neither were woman meant to be sexual beings at the turn of the century. Now it is widely accepted that women can & do ejaculate. I would suggest you have a read of the book called The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-Spot. This is listed under our book titles in the Sex Guides. It details ejaculation & how to achieve this.
Kind regards SUE
Question from Clueless
Hi Sue - I'm looking to buy a vibrator - I've never bought one before and have no idea where to start and what to go for. I've never achieved orgasm before and am getting so sexually frustrated in my relationship! The only time I get remotely close is through oral sex... what can you recommend for me? Although money isn't an object, I'd like a good investment that's value for money ;) Thanks! ?
HI Clueless
First of all you need to realise that a LOT of women go through life without ever orgasaming. About 80 percent of women cannot climax without direct clit stimulation, ie fingers or vibrator. Our anatomy is such that with penetration by a penis, the clit our main sexual organ isn't in the greatest position for stimulation. So thats where the toys we have on offer come in. They can be used to provide that direct stimulation.
We (thats us women) need to relax and enjoy sex, as long as you enjoy the sexual contact with your partner a climax isn't a must. However a few things to consider would be the following.. since the average woman takes at least 15 to 20 minutes to reach climax anyway, are your sexual encounters lasting this long, is the foreplay long enough for you to actually reach a climax. Your body needs time to have a sexual response. Wanting a orgasm can lead to anxiety which of course means pressure to perform similar to men worrying that they are coming too quickly. This can create a cycle of stress which doesn't help the situation. The more you think about the problem the less likely you are to be relaxed enough to enjoy yourself.
The fact that you say that oral sex is best would lead me to believe that you are lacking clit stimulation, generally during oral sex the clit is directly stimulated by your partners tongue and or nose. Also the possibility of your partner using their fingers to explore the vulval area again increases the possibilty of direct stimulation of your clit.
Vibrators are great to provide consistent stimulation. You may wish to play with vibrators or a vibrating bullet by yourself first to spend time exploring what feels best for you. Once you have found what stimulation you like then you can bring the toys to play with your partner & teach them how you like to be touched with the vibrator.
One vibrating bullet I would suggest would be the "Ultra Seven Silver Bullet" this is found under the vibrating bullets area. Very powerful vibrations that have a controller that allows you to choose between strength, speed & pattern in the vibrations. So if one setting doesn't feel good you have 6 more to play with. The great thing about the bullets is that you can play with your clit in most positions even while being penerated by a penis or another vibrator. THIS WOULD BE MY SUGGESTED OPTION.
For a actual vibrator to try penetration I would suggest possibly a Sparkling Clear Rabbit, it has a shaft of rotating pearl beads as well as a attached clit tickler, so the best of both worlds. Two slide controllers are used to change the speed of the shaft or tickler. This is a moderately priced vibrator, so you can decide if you like clit tickler attachments before spending more on a more advanced model with clit tickler. Basically some women love the clit ticklers attached and some women prefer a bullet separate to the vibrator. Only experience will decide this for you.
For a vibrator without a clit tickler attachment I would direct you to the H2O Waterproof Vibrator. This is a fuller size so will ensure the vagina feels the vibrations, its soft jelly so fairly flexible.
If you want to try to locate your G Spot internally I would suggest a Purple Rain G Spot Vibrator. This is a hard vibrator with a angle to allow better exploration of the vaginal walls. The G Spot is located on the front (or upper) wall of the vagina when lying on your back, generally it feels like a area of rough or wrinkly skin, almost like a walnut. Some women enjoy stimulation of this area. Again its a matter of personal choice.
kind regards SUE
Question from duncan
my missus dosn't like me masterbating or watching porn although she indulges in these activatys herself and has toys that i don't what do you think is this fair ? and what should i do ?
Hi duncan
I would suggest you sit down with your lady, preferably at a time that is relaxing but not involving any sexual activities or just after any sexual activities and talk with her. Have you actually asked her this question?
Have a discussion as to why your partner objects to your activities when you feel she allows herself the same pleasures. You need to talk through the issue with your partner and possibly see if theres any middle ground that you can both enjoy together.
A suggestion would be to approach your partner to do what we call a "YES, NO, MAYBE" list. You both separately make a list of all the sexual activites, desires and fantasies that you can think of. The list includes everything, you then mark the items as Yes, no or maybe. Once completed you swap lists with your partner, you will probably find a whole range of ideas to play with that you hadn't thought of. You would of course include your wishes noted above and possibly offering power exchange or kinky play. This list exchange should lead to a great discussion on sexual activites. This should be approached as a game, possiblity with a glass of wine. Just remember you will both have NO's, they are not negotiable. However you will have a list of YES's and MAYBE's to explore. Any open discussion about sex is good, the list method is a non threatening way of getting the discussions rolling.
kind regards SUE
Question from Frustrated
hi there, ok latley my husband has been having a problem, after he has cum he loses his hard on pretty much straight away, even if i havent finished and also he is cuming very quickly, is there a toy or something to help him with this, to either not cum as fast or stay hard ?????/
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Hi Frustrated
please be assured this is a common issue with couples & you are not alone facing this issue as a couple.
I have a couple of suggestions, you need to extend the play before penetration, you need more stimulation on your clit, vulva, nipples etc before he enters you, once the average man starts "direct" stimulation of his penis, so peneration of your vagina he climaxes within about four minutes. Loss of his erection usually follows quickly since then the end of the males penis becomes very sensitive & almost painful in some men, so further stimulation can seem "painful" & most men lose their erection if pain is involved.
Now we girls take a bit longer to reach climax, the average around 15 to 20 minutes, also the clit is not in the best position for direct stimulation when your partner has penetrated you, so I suggest a lot more fore play to ensure your arousal is at its height before he enters you, using vibrating bullets or vibrators to help stimulate yourself while he is penetrating you will also help.
The use of firm erection rings can help maintain the erection & slow down his ejaculation, but remember to remove after twenty minutes. There are exercises which are fun if you both are part of the play. Your partner will need to masturbate, best to start without lube being used so he learns his "point of no return". That is a certain point the man can not stop himself ejaculation whether he wants to or not, if your partner can determine this feeling, then he can learn to withdraw and move onto play that is of less direct stimuation of his penis before this point has been reached & he can carry on further.
The exercises of masturbation can be fun, you can also learn about his reaction as well, once you have determined this "point of no return" there are a couple of methods that may help, one move is to apply very firm pressure just below the tip of the glands & hold for a few minutes. You can also apply very firm pressure around the base of the penis, the last method I always suggest the male partner learns, as his arousal gains he can CAREFULLY hold his testicles & GENTLY pull them down & away from his body. The testicles pull up into his body as he nears ejaculation, so drawing them back down into his sack will help your partner.
Your partner is probably feeling as bad as you, so if you support him in the exercises he feels that you are not placing all the blame on him. This can greatly increase the problem if he feels under pressure to perform. Unfortunatley men are under a great deal of pressure to perform, this pressure is in advertising, books, films etc, just like women are always subjected to pressure to have the prefect figure. This advertising doesn't allow for stress or ill health, our male partners are meant to be ready & willing at all times.
Toys to assist will be any vibrator or bullet to stimulate yourself to higher levels of arousal before he enters you. This is your foreplay, enjoy yourself, have your partner use the toys on you, have your partner massage you with massage oils first, again this lengthens your arousal time. Suggested toys would be "the erection ring", "Facing Eight Cock Ring & Vibrating Bullet or for a firmer cock ring try the "wittle wabbit". You can also carry on after he has climaxed with a toy of your choice, he should remain with you & attentive so you are both still enjoying yourselves, I often carry on afterwards and have my partner use toys on me to bring me to climax after him since I take a lot longer to climax, like most girls.
Do not forget the candles, music & massage oils for foreplay.
Kind regards SUE
Question from Pascoe
Can I pay direct to your Bank Account via the Internet?
Hi Pascoe
the short answer is YES, the long explanation of how too is below.
When you move to checkout, you have three payment options available, to pay by credit card, cheque or internet or direct payment into our account. When you "tick" the pay by internet banking option the system will send you a email with all the information you need to do a direct or internet depoist to our account. The system when it processes the order to us informs us of your payment method.
So when you are ready with your purchases in the shopping cart head to the check out & follow the prompts to complete your purchase.
kind regards SUE
Question from Hellen
hi there, the SoReal Suction Base Realistic 6" Dong, could you give me an exact diameter of this?
Hi Hellen,
this dong is very realistic in size & shape, the diameter is 4cms, so very close in size to a average penis. A great toy to have lots of fun with
kind regards Sue
Question from Jade-baby
Sparkling Clear Beaver [VP0003]
Powerslide Vibe [VP0001]
Wise Guy [VP0010]
Sparkling Clear Rabbit [VP0002]
which one is the best model..how many speeds/modes are there on these? i've never bought one b4..have no idea about them so please advise?
Hi Jade-baby
The Sparkling Clear Beaver (VP0003) has two slide controllers, one to control the beads in the shaft, one to control the speed on the clit tickler, this is not a waterproof vibe, blue in colour,
The Powerslide Vibe (VP0001), this is a larger vibe, again two slide controllers, not waterproof, some women find this a bit to large, but if you want that fuller feeling this would be the vibe.
The Sparkling Clear Rabbit (VP0002) is similar to the Beaver, but the ears on the clit tickler are longer, pink in colour, not waterproof
The Wise Guy (VP0010) has pushbutton controls, not waterproof, is the smallest of the vibes that you have asked about, the beads in the shaft can rotate either way, the mouse clit tickler is the strongest out of the four that you have picked
Each of the vibes you have chosen are great, just a bit different, The highest seller out of the four at sex toy parties is the Sparkling Clear Rabbit, the ladies find it very sexy to look at and love the clit tickler, the vibes with the slide controllers have more vibration variation than the WIse Guy,if you want a smaller vibe I would then suggest you go with the Wise Guy
Regards SUE
Question from Kikozhuzhu
Hello, which vibe would be powerful and exciting, but not too much expensive?
Hi Kikozhuzhu.
It depends on what you want from a vibrator?,
you have to think whether or not you want a vibrator for external stimulation, internal stimulation or both, it also depends on whether or not you like hard vibrators or the softer and more flexible jelly type. The majority of women require some sort of manual stimulation of the clit to actually orgasm, this stimulation can be provide by her finger, her partners fingers or a vibrator with a clit tickler attachment. Bullets are also fun but you are asking about vibrators. From the selection with clit tickler attachments I would suggest a Sparkling Clear Rabbit, product code number VP0001, this rabbit has a rotating shaft and the rabbits ears are quite long to easily reach the clit. The clit tickler and the shaft have separate controls to ensure a speed you like. From the soft more flexible vibrators I would point you towards the H2O Waterproof Viking Vibe, product code number VV0026. Great flexible vibrator with a nubby area to help massage the clit. If you want a vibrator that can easily massage your
G-Spot I would suggest the Blu-Dolphin, product code number VV0016, another waterproof softer vibrator with a curve to allow you to reach your G-Spot.
You can easily find the products I am suggesting by placing the product code number in the quick search area.
Kind regards SUE
Question from Kiko
I wonder to know how long it will take for shipping, because i will shift home this Friday. Area: Auckland
Hi Kiko, we ship the day your payment clears, most payments clear in 24 hours or overnight. Then items are usually received within 48 hours of the order being paid for
Kind regards SUE.
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